Do you feel hurt by someone?
Do you feel hurt by someone?
We all do and today this question has been very alive for me.
We all know how it feels and what it does to people. it’s because someone said something to us: either they insulted us, or rejected us, or judged us, or ignored us, or differed with us in some way.
It almost feels like a linear equation that someone does something hurtful and the other person feels hurt.
The reality is few of us were raised to honour who we authentically are. Most of us were raised to honour what others thought of us over our own opinion of ourselves.
What if we realized that all of this is a lie?
What if we understood that our deepest self is essentially always pure and worthy – no matter what other’s say about us.
What if we understood that it is no one’s job to understand or know or approve of us but ourselves? What if we simply realized that while everyone has their right to their opinion about us, this has nothing to do with us and only to do with them – their history, their feelings, their heart and their level of consciousness?
What if we choose another way? Instead of automatically feeling hurt, we felt …nothing? almost neutral? What if we gave ourselves the permission to simply not react? What would our life look like? Would it look too detached for comfort? Too drama-free?
Wish some day we are able to simply say, “I know you believe this about me, and you have full right to do so.
You don’t have to change your belief at all.
You can keep your belief about me.
But I simply don’t share the same view.
I hope we can still be kind to one another.”
It is no one’s job to approve of or understand us.
Sure, it is wonderful when someone tries.
But even then, no one can fully feel our feelings for us.
They can only aspire to know a bit more each day.
We all do and today this question has been very alive for me.
We all know how it feels and what it does to people. it’s because someone said something to us: either they insulted us, or rejected us, or judged us, or ignored us, or differed with us in some way.
It almost feels like a linear equation that someone does something hurtful and the other person feels hurt.
The reality is few of us were raised to honour who we authentically are. Most of us were raised to honour what others thought of us over our own opinion of ourselves.
What if we realized that all of this is a lie?
What if we understood that our deepest self is essentially always pure and worthy – no matter what other’s say about us.
What if we understood that it is no one’s job to understand or know or approve of us but ourselves? What if we simply realized that while everyone has their right to their opinion about us, this has nothing to do with us and only to do with them – their history, their feelings, their heart and their level of consciousness?
What if we choose another way? Instead of automatically feeling hurt, we felt …nothing? almost neutral? What if we gave ourselves the permission to simply not react? What would our life look like? Would it look too detached for comfort? Too drama-free?
Wish some day we are able to simply say, “I know you believe this about me, and you have full right to do so.
You don’t have to change your belief at all.
You can keep your belief about me.
But I simply don’t share the same view.
I hope we can still be kind to one another.”
It is no one’s job to approve of or understand us.
Sure, it is wonderful when someone tries.
But even then, no one can fully feel our feelings for us.
They can only aspire to know a bit more each day.
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